After a blind date, you often struggle with whether this person is suitable or not? Don’t just focus on whether you have feelings, feelings can deceive people. The following five details are more reliable than feeling.
Detail 1: Does he care about your feelings? Will you be asked about your dietary restrictions when ordering? Will they only talk about themselves during conversations? Did he listen attentively when you spoke? A person who cares about your feelings is likely to also care after marriage.
Detail 2: What attitude does he have when talking to others? When it comes to talking about former colleagues, friends, and even ex-wife, does he speak calmly, or is he full of complaints that it’s all the other person’s fault? How a person evaluates past people is how they evaluate you in the future.
Detail 3: What is his attitude towards the waiter? People who shout and shout at the waiter impatiently are not bad tempered, but inherently disrespectful to others. This kind of person is treating you well now because you are “serving” their needs. When you become one of your own, your attitude may be the same.
Detail 4: Are you comfortable chatting about trivial matters? Many people only focus on chatting without making big talk, but in fact, 90% of conversations after marriage are just nonsense: “What did you eat today?” “Have you paid for utilities?” “That cat is so cute. If we can’t even talk about these small things together, it will be very boring after marriage.
Detail 5: Are you relaxing or nervous when you’re with him? This is the most important signal. If you feel like you have to keep holding on, afraid of saying the wrong thing, and afraid that he won’t like it, then it means your aura is not compatible. If you don’t feel embarrassed even if you have nothing to say, then it’s a good signal.
It’s impossible to see through a person on a blind date, but these five details can help you filter out those who are clearly not suitable. Believe in your observations and also believe in your feelings.