I don’t think we’re suitable “- receiving this message, I feel indescribable discomfort. Why are you so disappointed when you’ve only met once? The sadness of being rejected by a blind date is real. Here are three methods to help you get out.
Method 1: Allow yourself to feel sad, but do not amplify the feeling of rejection. The first reaction to rejection is often, “Am I not good enough?” Stop. The other party may reject you simply because: you are not the type he likes, he still has people he hasn’t let go of, he doesn’t want to date recently, and your pace is different. These have nothing to do with whether you are good or not. Don’t take his refusal as a complete denial of you.
Method 2: After being rejected, many people can’t help but ask, “What’s wrong with me? You say, I’ll change.” Don’t ask. Firstly, he doesn’t speak the truth (afraid of hurting you); Secondly, even if it is said, it is only his personal opinion and does not represent the facts. Asking will only make you feel more uncomfortable. Say ‘Okay, I wish you happiness’ with dignity, and then end.
Method 3: Reconstruct “rejection” as “successful screening”. Change the perspective: you are not “eliminated”, but “you have screened each other out”. Blind dates are inherently a two-way choice. He didn’t choose you, which means he’s not the right person. Knowing earlier is much better than being dumped after six months of being together. You haven’t spent a lot of time, you can continue looking for the next one.
The last sentence: Being rejected on a blind date is like trying on clothes that don’t fit. You don’t think your figure is bad just because you can’t wear a piece of clothing, you just say ‘this one doesn’t fit me’. People are the same. The unsuitable person has left, only the right person has a place to come in.