Most people’s first reaction after a breakup is not sadness, but self doubt. Subconsciously feeling that one is not good enough, not excellent enough, and does not know how to cherish, which leads to the end of the relationship. Continuously magnifying one’s own shortcomings, falling into feelings of inferiority, sensitivity, and low mood, and experiencing long-term self sabotage and self denial.
In fact, the vast majority of heartbreak is due to a mismatch in values, pace, and interaction patterns, and is not related to personal strengths or weaknesses. But people who have experienced heartbreak are prone to cognitive biases, blaming themselves for all the reasons for the breakup and taking full responsibility for the breakdown of the relationship, forming a serious sense of inferiority.
This negative psychology will continue to consume personal state, making people become negative and sensitive, lose confidence, and even affect daily work, social interaction, and life. Long term self doubt can also lead people into a vicious cycle of self doubt, making it difficult to overcome the shadow of heartbreak.
To cure the internal friction of heartbreak, the first step is to correct misconceptions. Emotions are the result of a two-way adaptation, while breakups are a two-way mismatch, not a one-sided failure. Accepting the regrets of emotions, affirming one’s own value, stopping self deprecation, can slowly heal psychological trauma, regain confidence and love.