Many couples may encounter strange emotional stages: inexplicably disliking their partner’s closeness, resisting physical contact, getting tired of daily nagging, and subconsciously wanting to stay away from each other. Many people experience extreme panic when faced with this situation, suspecting that their relationship has deteriorated, and even thinking that they no longer love each other.
The high incidence of rejection period occurs six months to three years after marriage and after giving birth to a child. Long term high-frequency close proximity can lead to psychological saturation effects and aesthetic fatigue in one’s partner’s words and actions; Combined with the pressure of parenting and the triviality of life, negative emotions are stacked on top of each other, and subconsciously, negative emotions are transferred to the partner, leading to a sense of rejection.
It is necessary to distinguish between normal rejection and pathological rejection. Stage aversion to intimacy and desire for solitude are considered normal rejection, and can be restored through short-term adjustment; If there is a long-term aversion to all behaviors of the other party, resistance to all communication, and inner resistance that persists for several months without relief, it is likely due to the accumulation of long-term conflicts, and it is necessary to promptly face the hidden emotional cracks within the marriage.
The best way to successfully overcome the rejection period is to maintain a moderate distance. Respect each other’s need for solitude, without forcing intimate interactions; Reduce high-density binding interactions and cultivate personal hobbies separately; Reduce ineffective nagging and negative output. Accepting the ups and downs of intimate relationships, adjusting the pace of getting along naturally, and experiencing a brief sense of distance can actually reignite the relationship between husband and wife.