The simplest criterion for judging the quality of a marriage is the desire to share between spouses. When in love, we always want to inform each other of trivial matters as soon as possible. After entering marriage, many couples gradually become speechless and no longer share daily anecdotes, work troubles, or inner emotions.
A decrease in desire to share after marriage is a common and normal emotional phenomenon. The primary reason is the fading of novelty, and the mode of daily interaction allows both parties to assume that they fully understand each other and no longer require unnecessary language communication; The second is the psychological frustration caused by negative feedback. When one party enthusiastically shares things, they may receive perfunctory, preachy, and negative feedback in return. Over time, they will actively close the channel for confiding.
In addition, the shift in the focus of life is also an important factor. After marriage, most people focus on their children, work, and earning money to support their families, subconsciously believing that emotional communication is a useless trivial matter. This misconception limits communication between couples to household chores and lacks emotional exchange, gradually transforming them from soulmates to mere life partners.
The desire to share can be actively cultivated and activated the day after tomorrow. Quit preachy thinking in daily communication, empathize more and comment less; Proactively sharing fragmented small things to lower communication barriers; Set aside exclusive chat time every day to avoid children and electronic devices. The desire to share is never innate, but the result of mutual cultivation. Only by understanding how to respond to each other can a marriage maintain warmth for a long time.