Many long-distance relationships can be exhausting due to excessive dependence on the other person. Put all emotions, happiness, and support on your significant other, constantly scrolling around your phone and chat records every day. Without companionship, you feel empty, and without response, you feel anxious. Your entire life is filled with emotions, slowly losing yourself.
The biggest taboo in long-distance relationships is to fully rely on the other person. Distance itself has limitations, and the other party cannot accompany, reply to messages, or calm emotions anytime and anywhere. Excessive dependence will only make oneself sensitive and fragile, causing emotional breakdowns in small things and bringing huge psychological pressure to the other party.
A healthy long-distance relationship is when two people are independent and traveling in both directions. Each person should live seriously, strive to grow, and manage their own daily life. When they have time, they should accompany each other well, and when they don’t have time, they should settle down separately. Don’t put all your loneliness and emotions on the other person, learn to heal yourself.
Appropriate independence is not about distance, but about the wisdom to make long-distance relationships last longer. Having your own life and rhythm, reducing emotional friction, not clingy, not anxious, and not entangled. Only when two people become better together, support each other and shine together, can long-distance relationships be easy and long-lasting.