Currently, many boys meet their favorite girls through online channels such as social media, and online chatting has become an important part of pursuing girls. But when many boys chat online, they either only say “are you there” and “have you eaten?”, or the topics are stiff and cold, or they are overly enthusiastic and make girls dislike them, which always fails to bring them closer.
When chasing a girl online, the first step is to find the right starting point for chatting and avoid awkward greetings. Many boys start by saying “are you there” and “have you eaten?” This kind of greeting is too rigid and difficult to arouse girls’ desire to chat. The correct approach is to combine a girl’s social media, profile picture, and personal profile to find a specific entry point. For example, if you see a girl’s social media post about delicious food, you can say, “The cake you posted looks delicious. Which store is it from? I also love sweet food; When you see the scenery captured by a girl’s profile picture, say, ‘The scenery on your profile picture is so beautiful. Where did you take it? It looks very healing.’. Specific entry points can make girls feel your attention and naturally initiate conversations, avoiding awkward silences.
Secondly, master the pace of conversation, listen more, respond well, and avoid being cold and perfunctory. Online chat is not a one-sided conversation, but a two-way interaction. Learning to listen to a girl’s thoughts and respond in a timely manner is necessary to keep the conversation going. For example, when girls talk about their work and life, they should not reply perfunctorily with “Oh” or “Is that so?” Instead, they should listen patiently and give empathetic responses, such as “It sounds like you are really tired today, hard work, and need to rest well” or “I understand how you feel. I have encountered similar situations before. At the same time, don’t just talk about yourself, guide girls to speak more, understand their preferences and thoughts, and make them feel cared for and valued.
Thirdly, grasp the appropriate tone of conversation, avoid excessive enthusiasm, and refrain from frequent interruptions. Many boys always try to keep in touch with girls when chatting online. If girls don’t reply, they repeatedly send messages and even stay up late chatting. This behavior can make girls feel oppressed and disgusted. The correct approach is to control the frequency and time of chatting, not to frequently disturb girls, and give them enough space; When chatting, the tone is friendly and natural, without deliberately pleasing or being indifferent, maintaining an equal interactive posture. For example, chat 1-2 times a day for 10-20 minutes each time, and end the conversation when it’s enjoyable, leaving room for the girl to look forward to the next conversation.
Finally, timely promote the relationship and lay the groundwork for offline meetings. The ultimate goal of online chatting is to bring relationships closer and facilitate face-to-face meetings. Therefore, when chatting to a certain extent, it is important to timely promote the relationship. For example, after chatting for 1-2 weeks and becoming familiar with each other, you can politely invite someone to meet in person, such as “I had a great time chatting with you. I know a great coffee shop. Do you have time to go and sit together on weekends; When inviting, use a gentle tone and sincere attitude. If the girl refuses, do not pester, respond politely, continue to maintain online interaction, and wait for the appropriate time to invite. The core of chasing girls online is “sincerity, naturalness, and moderation”. Mastering chat skills, efficient interaction, and slowly narrowing the distance are necessary to smoothly promote relationships and catch up with the girl you like.