Telephone communication is the most important way for long-distance couples to maintain their relationship, but many couples have constant conflicts over this matter. Some people believe that they must make long phone calls every day in different places, otherwise they just don’t care; Some people also feel that mandatory phone calls are a burden and a constraint on personal freedom.
Normalized fixed phone calls are an effective means of maintaining long-distance relationships at a low cost. Unlike casual chatting anytime, anywhere, a fixed call refers to a daily or weekly exclusive chat time agreed upon by both parties, specifically used for heart to heart talks, sharing emotions, and communicating conflicts. This mode can effectively fill the gap of companionship, narrow the psychological distance, avoid prolonged zero communication between two people, and gradually become the most familiar strangers.
But forcing high-frequency communication will actually backfire on long-distance relationships. Many couples request to stay connected to their microphones for several hours every day and hang up their voice calls while sleeping, occupying each other’s work, study, and social time. Once one party is unable to communicate on time, it can lead to arguments and a cold war. This kind of bundled communication has long departed from the original intention of maintaining emotions and has become a disguised form of emotional control, which is prone to breeding rebellious psychology.
The most suitable communication mode for long-distance relationships is a combination of long and short calls. Make 10 to 20 minutes of short calls every day to share daily experiences; Set aside a long late night heart to heart talk once a week to review emotional issues and express one’s innermost thoughts. Respect each other’s busy schedule, do not forcefully respond or hang up on the microphone. A relaxed and moderate communication rhythm is necessary to make phone calls a bonus and maintain long-distance relationships for a long time.