When you have completed self growth and reviewed conflicts, you can try to reconnect with the other person and take the first step towards reconciliation. But in this moment of contact, one should not rush for success, do not immediately propose reconciliation, do not put pressure on the other party, but rather break the ice in a “low pressure, purposeless” way, allowing the other party to slowly accept your existence and feel your tenderness and change again.
Low pressure contact is “natural, sincere, not entangled, not forced”. You can start with some small things, such as seeing the updates shared by the other party on their social media, giving simple and sincere comments, not overinterpreting, and not asking about the other party’s recent situation; If you have common friends, you can naturally meet them through their gatherings. When meeting, maintain composure and politeness, chat like friends, and avoid mentioning past conflicts or complex topics.
You can also find a reasonable excuse to proactively contact the other party, but the excuse should be natural and not appear deliberate. For example, returning things that the other party left behind before, asking for books or movies that the other party recommended before, or asking questions that the other party is good at, using a gentle and sincere tone when contacting, ending the conversation promptly after the conversation, not procrastinating, not entangling the other party, and giving the other party enough space.
In the process of contact, one should learn to observe the other person’s attitude. If the other party is not averse to your contact and even actively responds and cares about you, it means that you can slowly advance the relationship; If the other party is very indifferent to your contact, or even explicitly rejects you, it means that the time for contact has not yet come. At this time, it is necessary to stop in a timely manner, continue to settle oneself, and not force the other party.
The purpose of breaking the ice is to help the other person rediscover the changed you and feel your kindness and tenderness again, rather than forcing them to immediately reconcile. Only by engaging in low-pressure contact and letting the other person let go of their guard can we slowly bring each other closer and allow reconciliation to occur naturally. Rushing for success will only scare away the other party. Patient companionship and gradual progress are the safest ways to break the ice.