Blind dates are a process of mutual choice, and some behaviors are crossed out by the other party in their heart as soon as they appear.
The first type: desperately showing off oneself. Within five minutes of meeting, I started talking about my house, car, income, and education. You think you’re showing off your strengths, but the other person thinks you’re showing off. Truly powerful people don’t need to show off, those who need to show off often don’t have that much strength. Moreover, the things you show off may not necessarily matter to the other party. What she cares about is you, not your savings. You keep talking about money, and she will feel that you have nothing to say except for money.
The second option is to constantly inquire about the other party’s conditions. How old are you? What job do you do? What income do you earn? What does your family do? “A series of questions are like checking household registration. The other party may think that you are not on a blind date, but doing a background check. If she’s not feeling well, she won’t want to continue with you. You will naturally know these things when you become familiar with them in the future. Asking on the first meeting will only make you appear anxious. What’s the rush? Are you in a hurry to get married? Are you in a hurry to complete the task? She’s not in a hurry, why are you in a hurry?
The third type: making gestures on the first meeting. Some people think that blind dates are about “confirming relationships”, wanting to hold hands, shoulder to shoulder, and touch hands on the first meeting. This behavior will immediately make the other party feel disgusted. You are still strangers, and your physical contact is not intimate, but offensive. Keeping a distance during the first meeting is a sign of respect for the other person. You respect her, only then will she be willing to continue understanding you. You don’t respect her, she doesn’t even want to say goodbye to you.
Blind dates are not exams, you don’t need to work hard to perform. The more relaxed, natural, and authentic you are, the more the other person feels that you are reliable. The harder you exert yourself, the more the other person feels that you have a problem. You are not interviewing, you are meeting someone who may spend the rest of your life with you. The rest of my life is long, I don’t have to play all my cards on the first side. Leave a little bit and let it go slowly, only then can there be hope for the future.