Many boys fall into a misconception when chasing girls: they overly rely on online “clich é s” and “flirting techniques”, thinking that as long as they memorize the language and do a good job of surface skills, they can impress girls. Little do they know, girls’ intuition is much sharper than they imagine. No matter how fancy the tricks are, if they lack sincerity, they will eventually be exposed and make girls feel disgusted.
Sincerity is first reflected in not disguising or deliberate. Many boys deliberately disguise their personality and preferences in order to please girls, claiming to love sports even though they don’t like fitness, and deliberately imitating trends even though they don’t know how to dress. Such disguises will only make girls feel unreal and difficult to trust. True sincerity is to openly show your true self, without exaggerating your strengths or concealing your weaknesses, so that girls can recognize the most authentic version of you. For example, if you are not good at speaking, there is no need to deliberately pretend to be humorous and express your thoughts sincerely; If you like staying at home, you don’t have to force a girl to go to a lively place. Sharing your preferences honestly will make the girl feel that you are down-to-earth and reliable.
Sincerity is reflected in attentive attention and empathy. Chasing a girl is not a one-sided self motivation, but learning to pay attention to her needs, put herself in her shoes, and consider problems from her perspective. For example, if she works overtime late, don’t just say ‘drink more hot water’, but proactively ask if she needs to be picked up or order a hot meal to be delivered to her company; She is in a bad mood, don’t comfort her perfunctorily by saying ‘don’t be sad’, but patiently listen to her troubles, give her companionship and understanding. These seemingly insignificant things can make girls clearly feel your intentions, far more powerful than fancy words.
Sincerity is also reflected in respecting boundaries and not getting entangled. Many boys mistakenly believe that “persistent fighting” means persistence, and “frequent disturbance” means care, but little do they know that such behavior will only make girls feel oppressed and disgusted. True sincerity is to respect a girl’s wishes and boundaries. If she is willing to chat, she should accompany her well, and if she needs space, she should leave in a timely manner; She declined your invitation, don’t ask ‘why’ or keep pestering her, but respond politely and show her enough respect. Respect is the prerequisite for sincerity and the key to making girls let go of their guard and be willing to approach you.
There is no shortcut to chasing a girl. The trick can only bring temporary goodwill, and only sincerity can bring long-lasting affection. Don’t rush for success, nor blindly imitate others’ methods. Calm down, treat girls with sincerity, prove your care with actions, respect, understand, and accompany them, and slowly enter their hearts. Remember, sincerity is never a clumsy effort, but the most touching confession and the most core and effective way to pursue a girl.