Because the vast majority of men cheat not for divorce, they will return to the family after being cheated on due to the coercion and temptation of their original partner.
But a man’s return to the family does not mean that extramarital affairs are completely over, because many men will have a second infidelity,
Either you have a broken connection with the mistress, or you still want to cheat, wait for the original partner to relax their guard and find another mistress.
Regardless of the type, for the original version, they all face secondary damage.
So the original partner must distinguish whether the cheating man is truly returning and whether the extramarital affair has truly ended completely. The editor has summarized 5 criteria for the complete end of extramarital affairs, which the original spouse can refer to.
The first criterion is to admit that infidelity is his fault.
The complete end of extramarital affairs and the sincere return of cheating men to the family are based on the fact that cheating men truly know about infidelity.
He knows he shouldn’t cheat, extramarital affairs are his fault, and he won’t shirk responsibility.
If a cheating man cannot do this, no matter what he says or does, it cannot prove that he is genuinely returning.
Why do you say that?
A cheating man believes that infidelity is not his fault, it is someone else’s problem, so he can continue to cheat,
The cheating man shirks responsibility, claiming that his infidelity was all due to the seduction of his mistress,
Or it can be said that one develops extramarital affairs due to reasons such as the original partner not being good enough.
He will cheat again in the future, and then continue to say that cheating is because the mistress took the initiative, because the original partner has not yet become a satisfactory state for him. The second criterion is to completely sever ties with the mistress.
Original partners should remember one thing, as long as the cheating man wants to break up, there is no extramarital affair that cannot be broken.
So cheating men say that mistresses are entangled and it takes time to break up.
The mistress threatened the cheating man, who was afraid of ruining his reputation and losing his job before daring to break up.
The threat of the mistress’s life and death, the man who cheats is afraid that something will happen to the mistress, so he cannot stop, and so on,
All of these are excuses for the cheating man not wanting to break up, saying that they are just to prevent the original partner from urging him to break up.
The editor has come into contact with many cheating men who want to completely break off their relationship with their mistress.
These men are very ruthless towards the mistress, even if she threatens, she will fight to the death.
A man who cheats will not think that he will not break up with his mistress, but will instead resent her.
Not only do they want to break, but they also want to counterattack and seek revenge against the third party.
So the reason why cheating men don’t completely break up with mistresses is because they don’t want to break up, not really returning to the family.
The original partner should not listen to the cheating man’s good words, and if they don’t go to the mistress much, they will feel that the extramarital affair is over.
The cheating man may just want to relax the original partner’s vigilance, appease the original partner, and then continue the extramarital affair with the mistress. The third criterion is willingness to accept punishment.
Many original partners want to punish cheating men appropriately, especially after they return to the family.
But many cheating men are unwilling to accept punishment from their original partners, even if these punishments are not excessive.
For example, the original partner requires the cheating man to go out and report where he went and who he met.
A cheating man will say that the original partner doesn’t trust him, that the original partner is monitoring him, and refuse to do these things.
A cheating man with such a reaction has not ended his extramarital affair at all, or he still wants to develop a new one.
Actually, reporting one’s itinerary is not a big punishment, and many normal couples would do the same.
The reason why cheating men are sensitive to such things is partly because they feel they are not wrong and should not be punished.
On the one hand, it is also because of the guilty conscience and fear of being discovered by the original partner when reporting to them.
Sincerely returning to the family and completely resolving extramarital affairs, cheating men are willing to accept certain punishments.
On the one hand, I genuinely feel that I was wrong, acknowledge the harm I caused to the original partner, and am willing to make some compensation.
On the other hand, it is because the cheating man wants to accept punishment to make the original partner accept it again and trust him.
This is the true expression that a man who has broken free from extramarital affairs and wants to return to the family should have. The fourth criterion is to actively repair the marital relationship.
If a cheating man completely breaks off his extramarital affair, he will take the initiative to repair the relationship between the couple.
Instead of being fixated on the mistress and constantly self pitying at home, even resorting to abusive language towards the original partner.
Or it could be cold and violent towards the original, accusing them of various flaws and demanding that they correct them.
Regardless of whether the relationship with the original spouse is good or bad, such men are not sincere about returning to the family.
So the original partners want to determine whether the extramarital affair has completely ended.
In addition to looking at the attitude of the cheating man towards the mistress, it also depends on the attitude of the cheating man towards the original partners.
A cheating man will not dwell on his mistress and wants to live a good life with his original partner.
Nature will actively repair the marital relationship and make efforts to maintain the marriage.
If a cheating man doesn’t do this, he just has other thoughts. Original partners should remember this.
Don’t take care of a man’s feelings while planning another extramarital affair or rekindling an old relationship.
Finally, the man who cheated on me cheated again and hurt me again, and I don’t know why.
The fifth criterion is to proactively sign a series of agreements.
Whether a cheating man is willing to provide some paper guarantees to his original partner is also the standard for measuring whether the extramarital affair is completely over.
Previously, an original partner told Jiaxin that her husband had completely cut ties with the mistress and wanted to go home and live a good life.
Because her husband had cheated several times, the original partner did not trust the cheating man and asked him to write a guarantee letter and sign an agreement.
The original wife said she didn’t know if these guarantees and agreements had legal effect.
She just thinks that if her husband writes it, she can feel more secure and secure.
But the cheating man is unwilling and insists on not signing, saying that his sincerity does not need to be written out.
The original partner did not persist, and as a result, within six months, her husband cheated on her again.
It is obvious that cheating men refuse to sign agreements because they want to cheat again or are unsure if they will cheat again.
I am afraid that if I cheat, the agreement I signed will become a weapon for the original partner to attack him, so I am unwilling to sign it.
Original partners should remember that if a cheating man is unwilling to sign, it proves that they have not truly broken off their relationship.