Tolerance is a compulsory course in male female communication, but many people misunderstand the meaning of tolerance. Either compromise everything and accommodate the other without any bottom line, losing one’s own bottom line; Either being too serious and calculating, unable to tolerate each other’s minor flaws. True emotional tolerance is not about humbly pleasing or being demanding, but about principled mutual understanding.
Firstly, we need to distinguish between tolerance and indulgence. Lifestyle habits, minor personality flaws, and occasional temper tantrums can be moderately tolerated and understood, without being overly serious; But we absolutely cannot tolerate betrayal, perfunctory, irresponsible, and principled behavior. Blind compromise will only allow the other party to take advantage and consume emotions.
Inclusiveness is a two-way effort, not a one-sided concession. If only one party continues to accommodate and compromise, while the other party is willful and does not know how to cherish, this relationship will only become increasingly imbalanced. A good relationship is one where you understand my difficulties, I tolerate your shortcomings, work towards each other in both directions, compromise with each other, and work together to manage and get along.
Men and women should learn to be rational and tolerant in their interactions, relax their mindset when it comes to trivial matters, and stick to their bottom line when it comes to important matters. Only by not being harsh and picky about each other’s small flaws, not tolerating mistakes that break through principles, adapting in tolerance, and growing in perseverance, can we cultivate a relaxed, warm, and long-lasting intimate relationship.